self confidence is a lot like flying, in that it’s largely about throwing yourself at the ground and missing. once you accept that you’re never going to be the coolest or the funniest or get everything right all the time, you can stop thinking about it, you can let all that go. you can stop caring about it, you can be yourself and just own it.
the things is not to be defined by how you think people see you. other people are always going to judge you, they’re always going to put in neat little boxes in their heads, that’s how human beings work. but who gives a fuck? just because you’re in boxes in their heads, doesn’t make those things true. if someone thinks your name is steve, it doesn’t mean your name is steve (unless your name actually is steve, in which case i’m very sorry this whole analogy is very rude. steve, you have a lovely name. enchanting, really. keep fighting the good fight, steve). so why should you care what people think? it doesn’t change anything. it doesn’t mean anything. once you can get that part mastered, the rest is easy.
— actual wise and insightful thing harri said once